When you’ve been in a relationship for too long, it can get extremely difficult to see right from wrong. You may lose sight of who you really were before you met that person. You may even start to forget to make yourself a priority. There is a lot of emotional abuse people put up with because they feel the pain the relationship brings is far less frightening than the pain of letting go of someone you love.
However, it is important to address the elephant in the room and admit to the fact that your relationship is going nowhere. Even if it is difficult for you to visualize your life without them in it, with distance and time, you will easily be able to see how toxic the relationship was for you.
- Passive aggression
There are many people who show passive aggression towards their partners. The whole “I am not okay with what you are doing but I’m going to stay quiet and throw you glances of disapproval.”
If your partner is not direct with their likings and disliking, you will lose that bond.
- Blame game and jealousy
While it is natural to feel a little jealous, extreme jealousy is a deal breaker. If there is a lack of trust in the relationship, you basically have nothing.
- Criticism and contempt
There is no such thing as a perfect person. In fact, the more time you spend with someone, more conspicuous their imperfections become to you. While constructive or positive criticism is good, but unnecessary disapproval is a relationship “no-no.”
When your partner uses criticism as a way to express disdain or contempt for you, it will only lower your self-esteem and make you feel worthless and unvalued. It is very difficult for the relationship to be normal in such circumstances.
- Negative energy
Feeling tense or uncomfortable around a person is just your body responding to the bad energy that surrounds the both of you. Negativity has the ability to drain people physically, mentally, and emotionally. Your partner should not be the reason for you to feel this kind of stress.
- You’re not yourself
Your relationship should only change you to make you a better and a happier version of yourself. However, if you feel sad and lost or you have a hard time recognizing the person you have become, it is unhealthy.
- Feeling hopeless
There is a big difference between being with a person because you have become comfortable with them and being with someone because you really want to spend the rest of your life with them.
In case you feel your relationship has reached a dead end, stop wasting time.
- You are constantly trying to make them happy
It is important to stay considerate towards your partner’s happiness. But this feeling should always be mutual. If you are the one trying to please them, but getting nothing in return, then your relationship is definitely unhealthy. It is good to either talk to your partner about this and if they don’t listen, just let them go.
You must understand that while you may not have complete control of all aspects of your life and there may be times when things may fall apart, if your partner becomes your strength and helps rebuild the relationship, then everything is worth it. However, if your partner is only making you bitter, it is time to let go.